Contents

FIFTY

You Say You Want to Know How Old I Am?
You Say You Want to Know How the Children Are Doing?
Wild Thing
Exercising Options
Postmortems
Confusion
To a Middle-Aged Friend Considering Adultery with a Younger Man
Happiness

STILL FIFTY

By My Age
Second Marriage
Brief Encounter at the Delicatessen
They're Back
Christmas Presents for Fifty Years and Over
And Now You Want to Know If There Is Anything Good to Say about Getting Older
Eight Basic Facts about Memory
How Can People Want to Bring Children into This Terrible World?

FOREVER FIFTY

Before I Go
You Might As Well Laugh
Some Advice from a Mother to Her Married Son
When Asked to What They Owe the Success of Their Marriage, He and She Completely Agree that Love Is Accommodation
Medical Tests
More Questions
A Sexy Old Lady
The Pleasures of an Ordinary Life

You Say You Want to Know How Old I Am?

I don't mind telling my age. I

honestly don't mind telling my age.

But why are you asking?

I don't pretend I'm still young. I

don't expect to be thought of as young.

So why are you asking?

I never lie about age. It's

undignified to lie about age.

But why are you asking?

We're only as old as we feel. You

know we're only as old as we feel.

So

why are you asking?

I'm told I look good for my age. I'm

often told I look good for my age.

Now why are you asking?

No, I'm not ashamed of my age. And

if you insist, I'll tell you my age.

You're what? Still asking?

You Say You Want to Know How the Children Are Doing?

Shawn teaches wind-surfing. Dawn is a certified midwife.

Kim has converted from atheist to Bahai.

Justin has finally fallen in love with a practically perfect person,

Except he's a guy.

Holly quit teaching first grade to go into arbitrage.

Keith runs a health club and Kyle's a computer whiz.

Robin, who's on her second divorce and fourth therapist, feels that she's starting

To learn who she is.

Brandon has dropped out of medical school to write screenplays.

Josh has abjured material wealth to do good.

Kirsten and Stacy and Maya and Tracy have opted for partnership track

Over motherhood.

Andrea is a professional acupuncturist.

Damian's making a killing in real estate.

Tara has already given birth to Rebecca and Joseph and Jacob,

And plans to have eight.

Kevin has given up socks and acquired two earrings.

Devon has given up sweets and eats nothing impure.

And so, if you want to know how the children are doing,

The answer is,

We're not exactly sure.

Wild Thing

I went for a walk in the sun without wearing my sunscreen.

I went out of town without making a reservation.

I placed my mouth directly upon a public drinking fountain, and took a sip.

I didn't bother flossing my teeth before bedtime.

I pumped my own gasoline at a self-service station.

I ate the deviled egg instead of the cauliflower with low-fat yoghurt dip.

I bought, without readingConsumer Reports,a new dryer.

I left my checking account unreconciled.

I know that the consequences could be dire,

But sometimes a woman simply has to run wild.

Exercising Options

I've been told that the vigorous moving-about of my body

Could discourage all ills from loose flesh to a heart attack.

But there isn't a fitness routine

That strikes me as anything less than obscene, so

I float on my back.

I respect those brave ladies who're burning their flab off with Fonda.

They still wear bikinis. I long ago switched to a sack.

But my horror of thickening thighs

Is surpassed by my horror of exercise, so

I float on my back.

I admire all those stalwarts out jogging in blizzards and heat waves

But if I want torture, I'd just as soon head for the rack.

Let my upper arms droop, I aspire

To no exertion that makes me perspire, so

I float on my back.

And I know that I richly deserve the whole world's condemnation

For the firmness that both my torso and character lack.

Yes, my body's a total disgrace

But there is this big happy smile on my face as

I float on my back.

Postmortems

On the way home with my husband from the dinner party,

I thought I'd very tactfully point out

That he shouldn't interrupt, and that

He shouldn't talk with his hands, and that

He shouldn't, when discussing politics, shout.

And that he shouldn't tell that story while people are eating, and that

He shouldn't tell that joke for the rest of his life, and that

He shouldn't have said what he said about that terrible lady in red because

She happens to be the-person-he-said-it-to's wife.

And that he didn't need that second helping of mousse cake, and that

He didn't need to finish the Chardonnay.

But after thirty years of marriage

I finally understand what not to say

On the way home with my husband from a dinner party.

Confusion

I can't figure out if it's gas or a coronary.

I can't figure out if it's hostile or benign.

I can't figure out if I'm turning into a hypochondriac, or just being sensible.

I can't figure out when we stop supporting our children.

(At twenty-one? At thirty? Forty-nine?)

I can't figure out if not bothering to change the sheets in the guest room in between houseguests is ever an option, or always reprehensible.

I can't figure out why men won't ask for directions.

(Is this genetic or could they be retrained?)

I can't figure out, when dressed in the height of fashion, if I'm looking incredibly chic or slightly ridiculous.

I can't figure out if my tale is enthralling or boring.

(What are those facial expressions? Spellbound? Or pained?)

I can't figure out if wanting all the hangers in my closet to face the same way means I'm obsessive-compulsive, or merely meticulous.

I can't figure out if I've gone from stable to stodgy.

(Is "reliable" what I want as my epitaph?)

I can't figure out if helping yourself to a shrimp from your spouse's plate ought to be viewed as intimacy or intrusion.

I can't figure out if I've lost my sense of humor

Or if, after fifty, it just gets harder to laugh.

And I can't figure out if everyone else has figured everything out, or whether we are all in a state of confusion.

To a Middle-Aged Friend Considering Adultery with a Younger Man

It's hard to be devil-may-care

When there are pleats in your derriere

And it's time to expose what your panty hose are concealing.

And although a husband's fond eyes

Make certain allowances for your thighs,

Young lovers might look less benignly at what you're revealing.

It's hard to surrender to sin

While trying to hold your stomach in

And hoping your blusher's still brightening up your complexion,

And hoping he isn't aware

As he runs his fingers through your dark hair,

That you've grown unmistakably gray in a whole other section.

It's hard to experience bliss

When sinus intrudes on every kiss

And when, in the tricky positions, your back starts to hurt you.

And when you add all it entails

To teach him what turns you on and what fails,

You might want to reconsider the virtues of virtue.

Happiness

(RECONSIDERED)

Happiness

Is a clean bill of health from the doctor,

And the kids shouldn't move back home for more than a year,

And not being audited, overdrawn, in Wilkes-Barre, in a lawsuit or in traction.

Happiness

Is falling asleep without Valium,

And having two breasts to put in my brassiere,

And not (yet) needing to get my blood pressure lowered, my eyelids raised or a second opinion.

And on Saturday nights

When my husband and I have rented

Something with Fred Astaire for the VCR,

And we're sitting around in our robes discussing

The state of the world, back exercises, our Keoghs,

And whether to fix the transmission or buy a new car,0

And we're eating a pint of rum-raisin ice cream on the grounds that

Tomorrow we're starting a diet of fish, fruit and grain,

And my dad's in Miami dating a very nice widow,

And no one we love is in serious trouble or pain,

And our bringing-up-baby days are far behind us,

But our senior-citizen clays have not begun,

It's not what I called happiness

When I was twenty-one,

But it's turning out to be

What happiness is.

Text copyright © 1989 by Judith Viorst

Illustrations copyright © 1989 by John Alcorn

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